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The 12 mistakes to avoid on your dating photo.

The 12 mistakes to avoid on your dating photo.

Our moderators have reviewed over 600,000 photos from members since we started our site. That is a lot of experience with what makes a good or bad dating photo! We asked them what mistakes they see people making over and over. Not having a picture at all. Paying no attention to the background. Wearing a terrible outfit. Other people in the pictures. Too much flesh on show. Terrible angles. Grumpy expression. Vices No face in the photo. Badly lit, or blurry photos. Poor Grooming. Photos of photos / screen captures from other sites.   Not having a picture at all! Online dating is a numbers game – you get far more choice of potential partners than you do in day to daily life.  That works both ways though, so you have to make an effort to ensure your profile stands out from the crowd.  Members without a photo get 10 times fewer messages and many members ignore your messages. Paying no attention to the background. Toilets, urinals, piles of laundry, stained paintwork, playroom toy explosions, or wheelie bins are all terrible backdrops for photos.  A nice view while on a walk, a park, a landmark, or something interesting behind you is best. Bad choices of outfit.  An old dressing gown might be comfy, but it is not a good look when you want to pull.  The more effort you put in, the more likely attractive members are to reply to you.  Wear the kind of thing you would wear on a night out, interview, or first date. Other people in the pictures. Make sure it is just you in the...
What Men Want to See!

What Men Want to See!

What do men look for in a woman? Our hot list feature is one of the most actively used parts of our site. So far there have been over 100 million member ratings! This gives us a massive amount of information on what men find attractive. Men are much more likely to rate a woman as attractive than the other way round.  The average man is three times more likely to rate a women as attractive than a woman is to rate a man attractive. When we looked at the kind of photos that men like there are a number of things that we kept on finding.  These tips are really useful as they work for people of all levels of attractiveness.  Anyone can use these tips to make their profile picture more likely to result in a rating or a message. We also see over and over again that women who update their photo following this advice get messages from more attractive men. Look up into the camera – holding your phone up higher than your head seems to be either a flattering angle, or is something that men find attractive. Bare shoulders. Honestly we were expecting to see a correlation between ratings and how provocatively women dressed, but actually what we found is that dressing too provocatively puts a lot of men off.  The sweet spot between seems to be bare shoulders as this is attractive, without the perception of trying too hard.  A summer dress, strapless dress, or halter neck doubles men rating or contacting you.  If you aren’t confident enough to try this, or it just is not...
What women look for in a man.

What women look for in a man.

Our hot list feature is one of the most actively used parts of our site. So far there have been over 100 million member ratings! This gives us a massive amount of information on who is seen as attractive and who is not. When we looked at the most attractive men we find that there are a lot of subtle things that are being noticed by women. Women seem to see much more than just your looks and notice lots of other parts of the photo too. Women are much, much less likely to rate the opposite sex hot than men are.  A man can have less than 10% of his ratings as being hot, and still be among the top performing men on the site. Either men are putting less thought into their pics than women, or women are more selective and are looking at more than just the looks, and are looking at the whole image. It is quite likely that both of these are a factor, so spending a bit more time getting pictures right, and giving the right impression will generate much more interest on the site. Using these ideas, try coming up with your own unique way to make yourself stand out from the crowd and present yourself in the best possible light. Status  – Subtle indicators of having some interests that require you to be more than just getting by.  A motorbike, a car seat visible that has leather upholstery, a photo with what a beach behind you, a small designer logo on a well pressed shirt. A waistcoat over a shirt or...
What men need to know about peacocks

What men need to know about peacocks

Little known fact for you – everyone on the planet has twice as many female ancestors as male. How can this be everyone has a mum and a dad right? Well in every generation more women have children than men, census studies show 87% of women have children compared to and 81% for men. Over generations the 6% difference adds up until you get to the double number we are at today. What has this got to do with dating? Well this ratio means at least 6% of men are having children with more than one woman, but that number is going to be higher than that as some women will have children with more than one man.  Some of this will be down to relationship breakdowns, and of course men can have children for much more of their adult life. There is also a sub set of men that seem to prefer to have serial casual relationships rather than choosing to settle down.  These men seem to have something about them that makes them pretty attractive to women. So what are the human male equivalents of the peacock tail and how can men demonstrate they have these qualities? Several studies have been done on what women look for but the ones that seem to best fit the men who women find most attractive on our site are below. Dominance, Health, Appearance, Productivity / Status, Risk taking. So a profile picture that demonstrates as many of these traits would be best at getting women to respond well to you. Dominance – This is perhaps the most difficult to demonstrate in a...