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98% of Dating Site Fraudsters are Female

98% of Dating Site Fraudsters are Female

At FlirtFinder we strive to create a safe, fun and lively community of members looking to meet someone new.  We want to have an environment where everyone joins in the same way and are genuinely looking to meet people.  We don`t want a site that is populated with a load of fake members and fraudsters because this makes for a bad user experience. Every dating site gets members attempting to join that are up to no good. To keep our members as safe as possible we proactively police our service to remove members that behave in a manner that is detrimental to these goals. We recently analysed members we have removed from the service and found some unexpected results. When  we looked at members whose account had been suspended for requesting money , or behaving in a manner that would indicate fraudulent activity we found over 98% of them were women.   In fact we found that women were 58 times more likely to be removed from the service for this reason than men. It certainly seems that fraudsters have found it easier to get men to part with their money than women historically, so are focusing their efforts there. The majority of these barred members are because of small scale fraud attempts, asking for a top up voucher for mobile, or money for transport, or a loan as they don`t have credit to send more messages being a common ruses. Men are seemingly much more easily persuaded to part with a bit of money quickly if they think this will get them into a ladies good books, hopefully leading...
Learn the phrases you should never use in your dating profile

Learn the phrases you should never use in your dating profile

Check out this great article from the Independent giving us a heads up on the phrases that are big no no’s in your dating profile. Some wise words and good advice here. Read all about the The phrases you should never use in your dating profile When you use FlirtFinder be sure to take your time writing a compelling dating profile. You may never know how helpful it could prove to be finding love, meeting men or women....
Yin and Yang

Yin and Yang

Yin and Yang is a symbol that is familiar to a lot of people, but do you know what it represents? It is a very old symbol with a Chinese / Tauist origin and represents perfect balance between feminine and masculine. It represents two different, yet complimentary halves of a whole. Even now it is a common turn of phrase to call our partners the other half. There is something important we can learn from this symbol when it comes to finding a partner. We have heard it is an old fashioned opinion, but we when we look at the way men and women behave we see that the most successful members act in a way that is consistent with more traditional stereotypical roles. Put simply masculine confident men that actively pursue women do well.  Feminine women that make an effort, have a number of pictures, occasionally make contact in the form of a wink, or a hot rating, but wait for the man to make contact first do best. Some members contact us not realizing that because you are on a dating site you still have to treat it the same as you would in any other social situation.  If you are male and don`t initiate conversations with women at a bar you will not meet anyone. If you are female and don`t initiate conversations, then there is a good chance a man will still approach you. Think of it like a David Attenborough documentary. What would be the equivalent of the mating dance of the bird of paradise for...
Why The Hero Gets the Girl and Lois Lane gets her man

Why The Hero Gets the Girl and Lois Lane gets her man

Think of superhero, or think of the ancient Greek or Roman Gods.  Now imagine the male lead in a romance novel and the female lead in an action film.  They are pretty much always idealized versions of what we think a perfect women or man should be.   People seem to create and identify with these idealized versions of people. These idealised version of men and women tend to have abilities and traits that are hyper masculine and the women have more feminine traits abilities and interests. So how does that help you find love? Well everyone can learn from these idealised versions and incorporate something of this into their profiles.   What is it about you that makes you different, what is it that you are interested, or good at?  What can you do to make yourself look more like one of these archetypes? If you are male you can certainly emphasize your masculine traits, interests and appearance and if you are female you can emphasize the femininity. We have analysed what our members find attractive and unattractive based on over 100 million member ratings.  There are a few simple members that are the most successful tend to do that result in more people getting in touch and result in more people finding them attractive. Let’s start by looking at what successful women do to emphasize their femininity. 1) Angle – almost all of the most attractive women stood slightly side on to the camera rather than facing it. This gave a more feminine outline by making shoulders look less broad and emphasizing waist to hip ratio.   Turn slightly side...
The 12 mistakes to avoid on your dating photo.

The 12 mistakes to avoid on your dating photo.

Our moderators have reviewed over 600,000 photos from members since we started our site. That is a lot of experience with what makes a good or bad dating photo! We asked them what mistakes they see people making over and over. Not having a picture at all. Paying no attention to the background. Wearing a terrible outfit. Other people in the pictures. Too much flesh on show. Terrible angles. Grumpy expression. Vices No face in the photo. Badly lit, or blurry photos. Poor Grooming. Photos of photos / screen captures from other sites.   Not having a picture at all! Online dating is a numbers game – you get far more choice of potential partners than you do in day to daily life.  That works both ways though, so you have to make an effort to ensure your profile stands out from the crowd.  Members without a photo get 10 times fewer messages and many members ignore your messages. Paying no attention to the background. Toilets, urinals, piles of laundry, stained paintwork, playroom toy explosions, or wheelie bins are all terrible backdrops for photos.  A nice view while on a walk, a park, a landmark, or something interesting behind you is best. Bad choices of outfit.  An old dressing gown might be comfy, but it is not a good look when you want to pull.  The more effort you put in, the more likely attractive members are to reply to you.  Wear the kind of thing you would wear on a night out, interview, or first date. Other people in the pictures. Make sure it is just you in the...